Category Archives: Adoption

Adoption from foster. The process of. Bureaucratic, long, complicated, emotional.

Adoption Day! Here at LAST!!!!

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This is it! Finally! After 2 years, 3 months and 13 days of having The’Bug in our family, today is THE DAY that the Judge finally makes it official! The’Bug will really and truly and forever be OURS!!!!! All I can say is… Wow! At 72 and 56 years old, Bob and I are going Read More →

TLE Terri Lecture Extreme – Do lectures work with children?

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Our little Rosebug has been hugely challenging these last couple of weeks, as the adoption finalization gets extremely close. With all the various sources of well-intentioned advice, I experience a lot of anxiety about what is the “appropriate” response when she is disrespectful, argumentative, interruptive or when she hits me :O . When I really Read More →

Focus on the Freckles…and setting firm and fair boundaries for your child.

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Sometimes I get so frustrated caring for and raising this child of mine, that I forget why we chose to adopt her and raise her in the first place. I have always coached the employees of my preschool with the statement “You must get the behaviors under control, and then you can start having fun!” And Read More →

Happy Birthday to me….Final adoption signing!

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Well there it is…what we did for my 56th birthday. “The Telling”, where the County Social Workers read aloud to us everything they know about The Rosebug’s history. Quite a history, too! Most of it we already knew, but some of it was new to us. I love how the records say “she may have an aunt Read More →

!!!Happy New Year 2016!!!

Happy New Year 2016

Here we are starting a New Year. What does that mean? I think it can mean so many things, so many new possibilities. I see a trend of people choosing specific “words”  to use as general goals, rather than specific promises, or New Year’s Resolutions. Perhaps because New Year’s Resolutions seem to be made to be broken, and Read More →

It’s all done but the paperwork

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Yup, the final interrogation (home interview) is over. The adoption social worker pretty much asked us an abbreviated set of questions that she already asked us downtown in her office. I wonder if she thinks our answers will be different when we are in the comfort of our home? I really feel like they are trying Read More →

She wants to do it HER WAY!

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The other day my li’l Rosebug revealed to me that the reason she gets so angry with me when I tell her to do her schoolwork in a certain way is because she “…wants to do it her way!”. Well sometimes that is okay, but oftentimes, with schoolwork, it is not. There is usually an Read More →

Criminal minds

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Bob and I have had to go to the doctors to get poked and prodded, we’ve had our fingerprints taken (for about the zillionth time), we’ve had to go into the dungeons of the San Diego courthouse and fight with antique microfilm machines to try and find the stone tablet that Bob’s divorce decree was carved Read More →

RAD whining

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I don’t want to fall into the habit of whining…it’s too easy…and yet it seems to be my go-to place lately. I hate that. But…I had a rough day with my Li’l Rosebug yesterday. Even though she is flying through the schoolwork, it’s not for lack of arguing and fighting with me every step of Read More →

SQUIRREL!

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We are starting a new school today, my li’l Rosebug and I. It’s an online homeschool called “Connections Academy”. We put the ‘Bug in public school for first grade last year. Boy was THAT a waste of time! At that point we didn’t know we were going to be adopting her, and I didn’t have Read More →