Here we are starting a New Year. What does that mean? I think it can mean so many things, so many new possibilities. I see a trend of people choosing specific “words” to use as general goals, rather than specific promises, or New Year’s Resolutions. Perhaps because New Year’s Resolutions seem to be made to be broken, and then we feel like we have failed. No one wants to feel like a failure. Perhaps the “words” are simply to be used as gentle reminders to try to keep us going in a new, different, hopefully better direction.
They say that life isn’t about the destination, but the journey. So maybe the “words” are more to guide us along our journey, and the New Year’s Resolutions are more about our destination? I don’t know. But I have picked a word for myself to use as a guidepost along my journey this next year. And so far I have been in this New Year 2016 for a whole 11 hours, and I have bumped into this guidepost several times already.
My word for this year 2016 is
These last few months in my frustrations I have found myself falling back on sarcasm and anger far too often. Sarcasm can be funny, as long as no one gets hurt in the process. I will call that wit, and wit can be a positive thing…a sense of humor is always good. But the mean, biting sarcasm…where someone’s feelings get hurt, that’s just like acid…it pervades and eats away at everything and everyone around you and inside of you. It is simply not nice. And, as I have mentioned, in my frustrations, mean, biting sarcasm, coupled with far too much anger, has been my knee-jerk reaction more times than I care to admit.
Disclaimer, here, I am not horridly cruel or anything. Most times I keep the mean comments inside of my head, because I don’t really want to hurt someone’s feelings. But the fact that they are there, in my head, on the tip of my tongue ready to lash out, tells me that I am in a totally wrong frame of mind. And when my self-control slips, and the mean sarcasm slips out, I always hate myself afterwards.
So. Kindness. That is my guide for this year. When The ‘Bug frustrates me during homeschool, I am going to ask for God’s help to help me to take the time to respond with true heartfelt kindness, rather than react with anger and sarcasm. Whether I keep it inside or not, it is still the wrong place for my mind and my heart to be.
Hers and mine isn’t a battle, it is a journey that we are taking together. I need to remember that. And watch for the signs!
What is your New Year’s Resolution? Or are you choosing a word or two as a guideline like I am? Will you share?
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